Don't Tell Me (Avril Lavigne song)
"Don't Tell Me" | ||||||||
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European physical single cover[1]
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Single by Avril Lavigne | ||||||||
from the album Under My Skin | ||||||||
B-side | "Take Me Away" | |||||||
Released | March 1, 2004 (see release history) |
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Format | CD single | |||||||
Recorded | 2003–2004 Ruby Red Productions, (Atlanta, Georgia); Skyline Studios, (New York City); Ocean Way Recording, (Hollywood, California) |
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Genre | Alternative rock, post-grunge[2] | |||||||
Length | 3:22 | |||||||
Label | Arista, RCA | |||||||
Writer(s) | Lyrics: Avril Lavigne Music: Avril Lavigne, Evan Taubenfeld |
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Producer(s) | Butch Walker | |||||||
Certification | Gold (RIAA)[3] | |||||||
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"Don't Tell Me" is a song by Canadian recording artist Avril Lavigne. It is the first single from her second studio album, Under My Skin (2004). "Don't Tell Me" was written by Lavigne and the music by her and Evan Taubenfeld. The track was produced by Butch Walker.
In an AOL Radio listener's poll, "Don't Tell Me" was voted Lavigne's ninth best song.[4]:{{{3}}}
Contents
Background
When asked what "Don't Tell Me" was about, Lavigne said:
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It's about being strong. There are a lot of guys out there who just want to take you out to dinner and then, like basically go home and 'unhh' you. That's what a lot of guys are like and I just think girls need to be strong and not let any guy pressure them into doing anything.
She also said in a 2007 interview:
" When I was writing "Don't Tell Me", I was just, kind of, thinking about what it was like being a girl, and I was seventeen when I wrote that song, so that was all, like, fresh on my mind. I was just coming out of high school, and there's a lot of pressure for girls these days, and I'm happy to have that song, to be able to sing it up on stage every night, and to introduce it with, you know, by telling the audience that this song is all about being strong, and this goes out to all the girls, and it feels good to be able to do that." MTV.com
Reception
In a review of the album Under My Skin, David Browne of Entertainment Weekly said "Lavigne herself sounds more burdened; ... the sk8erboi of the first album has turned out to be a selfish, nasty creep who leaves when she won't go to bed with him" in reference to Don't Tell Me.[6]:{{{3}}} Blender Music wrote that unlike Sk8er Boi the up-with-abstinence single “Don’t Tell Me” finds her kicking him out of bed.[7] The Guardian was mixed: "Current single Don't Tell Me at least has some relevant advice to impart to her pubescent female fans: it depicts a confused and angry Lavigne fending off an over-eager boyfriend."[8] PopMatters was favorable: "The first single, "Don't Tell Me", is probably the best song on the album, with the kind of wonderfully effusive movement that makes the best pop so damn irresistible. It starts slow and quiet, building to the first chorus, ebbs back, builds to another chorus, drops down into a bridge before coming back with a skull-crunching third chorus that leaves the riff firmly implanted in your skull. One or two reprises and we're out like a light, end of song. At that point you're either convinced or not."[9] Rolling Stone was positive: "The lead single, "Don't Tell Me," might be her most Avril-ish song yet, a petulant kiss-off to a horny boy. As the guitars get revved up behind her, she asks, "Did I not tell you that I'm not like that girl/The one who gives it all away, yeah/Did you think that I was going to give it up to you?" The syntax may be tortured, but the singer sounds just fine: a righteous prude, confidently fending off the creeps."[10] Yahoo Music! liked the song but was angry because there are spelling mistakes in booklet: "we now have a stronger, more confident Avril - forthright in her determination not to lose her cherry on "Don’t Tell Me", which coyly spells ‘ass’ with an ‘a’ and two asterixes on the CD booklet, bitterly writing songs about doomed relationships."[11]
In an AOL Radio listener's poll, "Don't Tell Me" was voted Lavigne's ninth best song.[4]:{{{3}}}
Music video
The music video for "Don't Tell Me" was directed by Liz Friedlander and filmed in Los Angeles, California in March 2004. The video tells the story of the song. It opens with Lavigne's boyfriend leaving her apartment. After taking her anger out on her bedroom, she follows him around the city. During the bridge of the song, her boyfriend sees her in many places at once, so it is obvious that he is feeling guilty and her feelings are weighing heavily on his mind. At the end of the video, she decides that she is better off without him and lets him walk away.[12]:{{{3}}}
The video was nominated for Best Pop Video at the 2004 MTV Video Music Awards, but lost to No Doubt's video for "It's My Life".[13]:{{{3}}}
Track listing
Australia CD single | ||
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No. | Title | Length |
1. | "Don't Tell Me" (single version) | 3:26 |
2. | "Don't Tell Me" (acoustic version) | 3:38 |
3. | "Take Me Away" | 2:57 |
France, Germany and United Kingdom CD single | ||
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No. | Title | Length |
1. | "Don't Tell Me" (single version) | 3:26 |
2. | "Don't Tell Me" (acoustic version) | 3:38 |
Japan CD single | ||
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No. | Title | Length |
1. | "Don't Tell Me" (single version) | 3:26 |
2. | "Take Me Away" | 2:57 |
International CD single | ||
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No. | Title | Length |
1. | "Don't Tell Me" (single version) | 3:26 |
2. | "Don't Tell Me" (acoustic version) | 3:38 |
3. | "Take Me Away" (album version) | 2:57 |
4. | "Don't Tell Me" (music video) | 3:23 |
Brazil, Europe, Japan, Mexico and United States CD promo | ||
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No. | Title | Length |
1. | "Don't Tell Me" (album version) | 3:22 |
Charts and certifications
The song did moderately well on charts, peaking at number twenty-two in the United States, at number ten in Australia, at number six in Spain, at number five in the UK.
Charts
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Year-end charts
Certifications
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Awards
Year | Awards ceremony | Award | Results |
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2004 | MuchMusic Video Awards | Best International Video by a Canadian | Won |
People's Choice: Favourite Canadian Artist | Won | ||
MTV Video Music Awards[4]:{{{3}}} | Best Pop Video | Nominated | |
MTV Video Music Brasil | Best International Video | Nominated | |
Canadian Radio Music Awards | Fan Choice Award | Won | |
2005 | ChartAttack.com | Best Video | Nominated |
Socan Awards | Best Pop Song | Won |
Release history
Country | Date | Format | Label |
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United States[43]:{{{3}}}[44]:{{{3}}} | March 1, 2004 | Digital download | Arista/RCA |
March 16, 2004 | Mainstream radio | ||
Australia[45]:{{{3}}} | April 19, 2004 | CD single | Arista |
Germany[46]:{{{3}}} | April 26, 2004 | Arista | |
Japan[47]:{{{3}}} | April 28, 2004 | BMG Japan | |
United Kingdom[48]:{{{3}}} | May 10, 2004 | Arista |
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